The home is a garden. Weed keep cropping up in a garden that must be constantly removed, so that our planted seeds can grow well. Every normal marriage has problems and challenges. It is only when there is a fire that you see which of the sticks around you actually a snake.
In other words, in times of trouble, the character of a spouse shows clearly.
1 Corin. 7:28
Major Problem Areas in Marriage
- House work
It is in the best interest of married couples to do all they can to prevent problems from showing up in their marriages.
Preventive Measures are always better than curative solutions to problem.
However, the reality of the marital relationship is that no matter what you do, issues crop up that lead to problems. If problem arises, your approach to solving them must be this.
- Pray about the solution.
- Be positive that there is a solution.
- Bring up the issue (in the spirit of meekness- do not be confrontation).
- Identify the causes (sincerely). Get to the root, not the tip of the problem.
- If necessary, consult your pastor.
Methods of solving problems
- Be ready to compromise
- There is no winner or loser in marriage, you are one flesh. When there is a clear disagreement, the husband’s decision must stand and the wife must support it even if it turns out to be wrong however, the man must not be domineering. He must not be a dictator in his house.
- Things to avoid when solving problems.
- Do not shout.
- Do not share your problems with your relatives or friends.
- Do not break down in tears.
- Do not use sex as a weapon ( do not refuse him/her)
- Do no refuse to eat prepared food.
- Never used the word divorce in quarrels.
- Avoid the counsel of the ungodly.
- Having a forgiving attitude and spirit.
- Forgiveness is very essential for the survival of the marriage. Do not be nice to outsiders, but impatient and inconsiderate to your spouse.
- Be prepared to talk frankly about the issue.
- The offended person must be willing to open up and share in love rather than nag. Shout or bury things. Job 32:18-20
- The other party must be willing to accept fault and apologies.
- “I AM SORRY” these three words can resolve almost all quarrels. Be humble and don’t find it difficult to apologies.
- Mark 11:25-26
- Do not let any problem colour your future actions.